How many of us made New Year’s resolutions this year to be a fitter, healthier, better version of ourselves? And how many days did it take to break those New Year’s resolutions?
I’ve been reading up, and it appears that people generally give up their New Year Resolutions by around the 3rd weekend of January – according to Tyla anyway.
I honestly get so fed up when I see the New Year, New Me posts. Hey, I admit it; I used to be guilty of them too! I used to want to become a completely different person because I was so unhappy with who I was. But I’ve realised a few things since suffering from mental health issues. And I think New Year, New Me is terrible for our mental health.
And here’s why
Why do you want to change? Why do you want to be a ‘New You’? Answer honestly. Are you doing it for yourself or someone else? I have no problem with self-improvement at all – if you’re doing it for yourself. I think it’s great that you want to improve yourself, but why would you want to be someone completely new? Here’s the way I think about it:
By saying New Year, New Me, we are basically saying that we are not okay the way we are. And unless you are a terrible person who does some truly questionable things, what’s wrong with the old you? They made you who you are today. Mistakes make you who you are. At the end of the day, you regret the things that you didn’t do rather than the things that you did do.
The old you is strong. The old you has got you through 100% of the worst days you have ever had. How do you know the new you will get you through those bad days?
If you do make resolutions, though, how awful do you feel when you break one? You feel like you’ve failed, then fall off the wagon completely, right? Why? You’ve made one slip up – maybe you missed a day at the gym, perhaps you had a glass (or 3) of wine on a weeknight when it was only meant to be at weekends, maybe you had a pizza when you were meant to be on a diet. I’ll let you in a little secret – IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY!
Breaking a resolution doesn’t mean that you have failed. We’re only human at the end of the day. Just pick yourself back up and carry on. You’re not starting again; it’s just part of your journey. You can’t expect it to all be plain sailing. And if you do, I’m sorry to tell you, but it’s not realistic, and that’s not how life works.