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How To Deal With A Negative Pregnancy Test

by Lisa Jones
Published: Last Updated on 9 comments
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If you have been following my blog for a while, you’ll know that my husband and I tried to conceive our little one for nearly 3 years. I cannot count the number of times that we had a negative pregnancy test during that time.

If you are or have ever been trying to conceive, chances are you have seen a negative pregnancy test. Whether it’s your first, tenth, or thousandth negative pregnancy test, it hurts the same. Every. Single. Time.

In this post, I’m just giving a little advice on how to deal with it. I’m no expert, but these are just the things that I found helped me and hopefully, they’ll help you too.

When To Test

*I know if you’re reading this, you probably have already had a negative pregnancy test, so you can skip this step if you want*

If you can – if it’s possible – hold out until the weekend or a non-working day to do the test. If you do the test on a workday and it’s negative, you’ll be going to work in a bad mood. At least if it’s a weekend or a non-working day and it’s negative, you can sit at home and not worry about interacting with people and having to put on a happy face.

What To Do Next

You’ve got a negative pregnancy test…again. I know how you are feeling, I really do. I know just how much it hurts. My advice – let that pain out. If you need to cry, cry. If you want to shout, shout. Scream into a pillow if you need to. Don’t hold all that emotion in. Because if you do it will eat away at you and before you know it you’ve blown up in somebody’s face because they’ve looked at you wrong or they’re breathing too loud or something equally as little.

That Evening

Give yourself the evening off. Have a naughty tea, get your favourite treat in, a glass of wine maybe, a nice bath, or stick a film on. If you haven’t cried, stick a sad film on and let it all out. You’ll feel a little better for having a cry and taking some time for yourself.

Speak To Your Partner

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Chances are your partner is just as upset as you are. Don’t assume that they don’t care because they’ve reacted differently to you. Don’t shut them out either. Talk about it. Be open and honest and support each other. You are in this together.

And Finally

Be kind to yourself. Whether your infertility is female factor, male factor, or unexplained. Just be kind to yourself and your partner. Do not play the blame game.

Give yourself a day or two to be sad, then start again. You must give yourself the time to be upset. Equally though, you can’t wallow and obsess over it (easier said than done, I know!).

I want you to know that you are not alone. Speak to friends or family members. Join groups on Facebook or online. One website that I loved was Fertility Friends or there’s also the Fertility Network UK.

If you find that you are really struggling with low mood, please do take steps to look after your mental health or seek help. Go to the Doctors, speak to friends and family members. Please don’t suffer in silence.

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Abbeygailjanexo 09/07/2020 - 10:30 am

Know this feeling all too well, such a helpful post. Sorry that you’re going through this.

Love A x


Lisa Jones 09/07/2020 - 8:45 pm

Thank you so much for your comment. We eventually got our two lines after nearly 3 years.
I’m so sorry to hear that you also know this feeling ❤️

Abbeygailjanexo 09/07/2020 - 10:33 pm

Ahh congrats lovely ❤️❤️

D65 06/05/2020 - 8:56 am

I would have loved to have had this post when I was trying to fall with my husband. Thank you so much for writing this ❤️

Lisa Jones 06/05/2020 - 12:49 pm

Thank you for your comment. It’s such a difficult situation to be in and can feel so lonely. Hopefully this will make people feel just a tiny better xx

Britt | Shed Happens (@ShedHappenscmty) 01/05/2020 - 5:24 pm

This is such an important topic, one that I feel is often completely overlooked when people are talking about infertility or their journey to conceive. There are A LOT of emotions involved, and that’s okay! Don’t fight them, don’t hold back and don’t judge yourself for them… The tips you give here are a great way to embrace your emotions and work through them in a practical way that fits as well as possible into your life.

Lisa Jones 03/05/2020 - 12:28 pm

Thank you so much. I remember going into work after negative tests and it’s just awful! I really did used to beat myself up and feel bad for how I felt but it is so important to be kind to yourself ❤️

Casey Anne 01/05/2020 - 2:03 pm

I’m sorry to hear about the struggles you have with pregnancy! I can’t imagine how hard that must have been. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and while we aren’t quite ready or wanting children yet – I know that day is closer than I think. I’ve thought about inferitlity and how awful that must be and honestly would not know how to deal with it if it were to happen to me.

Casey Anne

Lisa Jones 03/05/2020 - 12:22 pm

Thank you so much! Going through it was awful but me and my husband stayed as a team so that really helped and is super important.
Good luck for when you are ready! ❤️


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