Ahhh, Mother’s Day. For many of us, it’s a day where we find the perfect card that’s cute, but not too sappy, pay too much for flowers or maybe a present and go to see our mums. You might even stay for some lunch or dinner if you’re anything like me. Or maybe you get treated to a lay-in and breakfast in bed with lots of presents. Perhaps you just don’t do any chores for the day. Everyone has their own way of doing things.
My First Mother’s Day
I could not wait to spend my first Mother’s Day as an actual mum! After spending almost three years trying to conceive (not that I mention it much!!) I was just so excited as it felt like a long time coming!
What actually happened, though, was I caught a cold a few days before, and it went to my chest. This was an issue as I have asthma. I ended up having an asthma attack and wound up in the hospital. Great.
They actually wanted to keep me in overnight, but as I was still breastfeeding Baby J and I wasn’t allowed to have him with me, I discharged myself against medical advice 😬 Naughty naughty.
Before I Became A Mum
I remember Mother’s Day only too well before we had little J. I would wake up and torture myself by looking through Facebook and Instagram at all the lovely pictures of mums and their little ones, with handmade cards, sharing breakfast in bed and having sticky kisses from their toddlers. It would make my heart break, especially if I’d recently had another negative pregnancy test.
This year, I really got thinking about how others feel on Mother’s Day. For some people, Mother’s Day is a day to dread. This could be due to any number of reasons. For example:
- They may have lost their mum
- May no longer be on speaking terms
- Possibly unable to conceive a child
- May have lost a child
- Or possibly had to have an abortion
Mother’s Day is a constant reminder for these people. With Social Media being as massive as it is these days, you just can’t get away from seeing it EVERYWHERE. As someone who’s been there, dreading another Mother’s Day where I wasn’t a mum, I can tell you – it’s tough.
To help take your mind off it, I’ve listed a couple of things that you can do.
Things To Help Take Your Mind Off Of Mother’s Day
Firstly, step away from Social Media. Easier said than done, I realise that but refreshing your feed and seeing ten more Mother’s Day pictures and posts pop up isn’t going to make you feel any better. Take a little time away.
Treat Yourself To A Nice Dinner
Oder a takeaway or get some nice dinner in for Sunday. You could even treat yourself to your favourite pudding or a nice bottle of wine.
Take Some Time For Yourself
Do something nice for yourself. Have a little pampering session at home, pop a film on, invite some friends over or paint your nails. Take a little time for yourself.
Plan Something Nice To Look Forward To
Make plans for another weekend so that you have something to look forward to without being surrounded by Mother’s Day stuff. Maybe a spa day or a nice meal out. Or plan your next holiday! (You know, once this whole COVID-19 business has all blown over).
Do That Job That You Have Been Putting Off
Do you have a job that you have been putting off for ages? Such as filing and shredding paperwork, sorting out your wardrobe or cleaning your make up brushes. Do it! Yes, it’s boring, but it will keep you busy.
I’m aware that it sounds like I’m saying that you should stay in and avoid people, but I’m just trying to give some options where you’re not going to be constantly reminded and surrounded by Mother’s Day things.
I wanted to write this post just to say to anyone currently struggling that I understand how you feel, and I am so sorry. I am sending you a massive virtual hug and lots of love.
Mother’s Day can be such a difficult day, so don’t feel bad about feeling sorry for yourself. You are entitled to feel however the hell you want! Be upset, angry or down if you want and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
This post is also a little reminder to others to be kind. If you notice that your friend/sister/colleague hasn’t liked or commented on your Mother’s Day post, don’t take it personally. They might be going through something that you have no idea about.
If you did want to talk to someone or get some advice, I have left some helpful links below:
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Mother’s Day, for many, is a joyful celebration. But for others, it can be a difficult day. In this post, I discuss how to cope on Mother’s Day.